From past experiences, I know first hand what it feels like to coast through life, without feeling any real sense of belonging… you wouldn’t believe the amount of people who are feeling divided from themselves.
Today women spend far too much time investing in others needs, rather than their own.
They listen to every cry from their children, husband, parents or friends, and are always there at a moments notice.
They invest all of their time and energy around others schedules. Between ensuring that everyone makes it to his or her sporting events, medical appointments, and school meetings. Dinner is on the table each night by 6. The house is clean and tidied, oh, and don’t forget continuing to maintain social appearances as well…
That’s why I’ve put so much time and energy into the creation of Turn up the Love, so that we can dig deep, develop new habits that fulfill your soul, and (most importantly) transform YOUR life.
What brought me here?
I really grew up as your typical teenage girl. I sought out after the classic North American dream of going to college, finding a job in my studied career, getting married, having kids, buying a house and ultimately live the socially accepted, “happily ever after” lifestyle.
But it really is never that simple, (and for a good reason).
During my final year of college, everything I had known, of being, “A Go-getter” and “A Girlfriend”, had completely slipped through my fingers.
My 6 year long relationship had ended. I also had to leave all the new friends I had made in the city I studied in…and what’s worse- move back in with my parents.
I was suddenly single, alone and I had completely lost my independence.
I also really struggled to find a job in my studied career. It was shortly after the economic crash of ’08…and there really weren’t a ton of options available.
But I didn’t give up.
I needed to find something, anything, to help me cover my bills, and start paying off my student debt.
So, I swallowed my pride, and started working that summer as a server at Hooters.
After spending my summer decked out in neon orange and serving greasy chicken wings… I finally landed a job working in my studied career, as an Interior Decorator.
I was only 20 at the time, and you’d think I would have been ecstatic. But, to be honest, it was the complete opposite.
I honestly felt that I was spinning out of control like a busy hamster on a life play wheel, and not able to get off.
Here I was working 40+ hours a week, weekends and all. I was miserable, lost and felt as if life was just passing my by.
From Social Norms to a Life Transformed
One day stood out specifically. I remember sitting there, at my desk, looking around the store at my coworkers who were much older than me at the time. I couldn’t help but feel a sense of emptiness.
I just felt so basic. I was not a basic girl.
I didn’t want to just wake up, go to work everyday, clock in and clock out, go home, go to bed, and do it all over again.
In that moment, I felt a serious feeling of overwhelm, my anxiety kicked in and I had to leave the room before my coworkers caught me in a pool of tears.
I ran to the bathroom, and when I saw my reflection in the mirror, I couldn’t help but cry more.
Where had I disappeared to?
Where was my spark?
But most importantly why was I living MY LIFE based on what society wanted me to do.
That day everything changed for me.
I realized, I could change my life by design, as there was no way that I was going to allow myself to be stuck in a mould.
I could do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. I was no longer going to let anyone or anything hold me back!
THE BIG LEAP
I left the design industry, and started to pursue coaching.
It certainly wasn’t easy to make the leap- especially after investing so much money into my studied career. But I knew that if continued on this way, I’d end up resenting myself.
So instead, I began practicing extreme self-care, and honoured my true desires. I knew that in order to best serve others, I had to first serve myself.
The saying, “Less is more,” really holds so much truth. The process of elimination is where I began my journey. I started cutting out a lot of the negative relationships I had in my life at the time.
I began to start practicing the laws of attraction, and reading oracle cards. I got very involved in astrology, and started reading several books that were recommended by a past co-worker, about personal development, and healing.
I started attending group meditation sessions, which later then lead to me doing self-mediation rituals on my own daily.
This was my ultimate turning point. I quickly realized that I myself had a gift inside of me too! I began lifting others up, friends, family and acquaintances were turning to ME for guidance and insight.
I had a deeper connection with my intuition and could read situations very clearly. I learned the gift of manifestation, and started attracting amazing things in my life.
I then put more of a focus on my diet, and got really into the benefits of nutritional eating. I began to workout regularly, took up running and attended group fitness classes such as yoga, spin, and zumba.
After struggling with weight issues since I was a child, I was finally able to get to my goal of losing 40lbs.
I found the man of my dreams, that I share the most amazing connection with, and deep down know he’s the one I’ve been searching for my entire life.
I also envisioned and manifested the car I wanted, my business, and new friendships. Everything has been co-created because of my spiritual beliefs and practices.
Learning to be in-tune with your inner guide is one of life’s very treasures I think we are all looking for. We all have it within us; it’s just about igniting it, or finding that person to help ignite it within us.
By stepping outside of my comfort zone and trying something new, in the hopes of finding the REAL purpose of life, and why I was placed here, that’s what got me to exactly where I am now. Living a life full of passion and purpose.
I want to share my passion for self-care, my love for experiencing new opportunities, and my mission to help women create a life of complete balance and fulfillment. Through Turn up the Love, I share my life as a fully self-expressed and independent woman with the hope that I may inspire others.
You are never too old, or too busy, to pause what you’re doing and take some time to follow your dreams.
Look inside, and crank that inner love dial.
May you never settle for a life that’s anything short of extraordinary!